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Hi Blogger!

I have been very busy to update here. Hope you have been keeping well. What have I been up to? You must be wondering… Things are getting better now...

Well, first of all, my ABC and my business are keeping me very busy. Sometimes, I do not even have time just to press the “ON” button on my laptop. The time for going to the toilet to do my business, be it small or big, I gotta cherish the time. Hahaha… I will bring my phone to the toilet to sms or make phone calls :P Sometimes, within the short time in the toilet, I will close a deal :) Good, rite? It’s certainly super good for me. With money coming in, and being able to spend time with my ABC, it’s certainly the best for me now.

Lately, Bernice and Charlene are sleeping less. They will be awake most of the time during the day time. It could be time for another maid. Or some help from somewhere. I can see my clothes piling up, washed but not ironed. Hmm… handling two maids in a home need some management skill ya? That’s what I heard from my friends with two to three maids. Sometimes they will have argument, you know.

I made my maid cry… It was her birthday yesterday. We brought her out for a nice dinner. Then after dinner, we bought her a fruit cake from Crystal Jade. And then we gave her a $10 phonecard for her to call home. She was touched when we sang her a birthday song too :). Aloysius enjoyed putting the candle on the cake, cutting and sampling the cake.

Ok back to my kids. Apart from being busy with business, I am also busy with ABC. Flashcards sessions and other stimulation activities never stop :) Or rather, these sessions cannot stop. I am very wary of that.

At five months, Bernice and Charlene are crawling (I am using crawling and creeping according to Glen Doman’s definition.) with their heads buried in the mattress. Hahaha… At 4.5 months, Bernice was 6.8kg and Charlene was 7.8kg. They are still on total breastfeeding. I will bring them out almost wherever I go. When I go for business meetings and seminars, they will be with me too :) Of course, with the help of my maid. Who knows, maybe next time, they will also be a world class speaker. They have been listening to world class speakers since they were in my tummy :) Good eh?

…Charlene can crawl backwards now too. The only thing I am worried is Charlene will start to creep before crawling. She’s strong enough to lift herself up high with her hands and legs now, though separately – both legs or both hands. She can get up holding on to my fingers from sleeping position to standing and to hanging in the air for 5 seconds. Charlene can flip in both directions now.

…Bernice is an expert in grabbing things in front of her and put straight into her mouth. It’s a milestone reached. She can get up holding on to my fingers from sleeping position to standing and to hanging in the air for 10 seconds now. Both Bernice and Charlene love hanging in the air. They will chuckle while hanging. It’s quite amusing. Bernice is very agile. She’s crawling everywhere on my bed when sleeping. The first time she landed on the cold hard marble floor from the mattress on the floor, she knocked her face on the floor. But now, she learnt that it will hurt when she does that.

…Aloysius is almost toilet trained. He can hold his bladder longer now. I gotta bring him to the toilet to urine every half an hour to an hour. He will do his big business on the toilet bowl most of the time. He’s into the “no. no, no” stage. What I do now is to give him alternatives. Some people call it “alternate closing”. Hahaha… I learnt this from the seminars that I attended. For example, when he does not want to eat, I will ask him “Do you want mommy to feed or aunty to feed?” Usually, he will want mommy to feed and he will eat. It’s useless to ask “Do you want to eat?” Do you see the difference? Another example, when going to the toilet, I will ask “Do you want mommy or aunty to bring you to the toilet?” No matter which answer he gives, he will have to go to the toilet. Sometimes, he’s getting smarter, he refused to answer me. Hahaha… Strategy gotta change soon. For now, I just need to ask a few times and wait for a few seconds and he will answer. Another thing I learnt from seminars :) So far, most of the seminars that I have attended, the speakers are parents themselves :)

Oh yes… let me tell you about mosquitoes bites…

As some of you know, we have been going to JB very often. Twice, Aloysius had very big and many mosquitoes bites. I think his skin is not very good, hence a big reaction to mosquitoes bites. He will get very big, swollen and red bump. There’s once when he got 3 big bumps on his neck. “Love bites” from mosquitoes ya? Hahaha… It was so obvious that everyone asked me what happen to his neck. It looks like some red growth or tumor. Then, I just tried using my bar. My bar is skin health product, hence logically should be able to help in repairing that mosquitoes bites area. Hee… I am an engineer, a very logical person. After one use, Aloysius stopped scratching and it’s not so red and obvious anymore. Thank goodness, else there will be ugly scars due to the scratching. Imagine 3 big scars on the neck. Ugly rite? On top of that, discomfort for him due to the itchiness. Then I continued to apply my bar on him 3 times in a day for the first day. Lazy mommy here subsequently applied it on him during his shower once a day. By the 3^rd day, the bumps are completely gone! Amazing, isn’t it? I should have taken a photo of the bites to prove. But “kan cheong” mommy me forgotten about that when I see him with so many mosquitoes bites and kept scratching. Taking a photo of that was the last thing in my mind. Hee… Maybe next time, if he still gets mosquitoes bites, I will try to remember to capture a picture to show ya?

Oh yes… Apart from mosquitoes bites… My bar also helped one of my business partners in his eczema. He got really bad eczema, one of the worse that I have seen so far. Plus it’s on the face with 2 big, red bumps! It’s that kind of wet type, not dry type of eczema. He trusted me and started using the bar. He’s in search for a miracle for his eczema condition. He’s an insurance agent and he needs a bit of good looks to meet his clients. He used the bar for his whole body. During the first week of using the bar, the 2 big bumps on his face started to have some liquid oozing out. My sis convinced him to continue to use the bar. He used it religiously. After the liquid oozing episode, the redness was gone! Now, after using for more than 2 weeks, the bumps started to subside! Wow! He was in awe… He had this problem for years. And within 2 weeks, the eczema condition started to improve leaps and bounds. Or rather, the eczema condition improved leaps and bounds already just within 2 weeks! He’s now a walking testimonial and he no need to sell the bars. The bar sells on it’s own. And he’s attracting lots of business people into distributing and retailing this miracle bar. He calls it a miracle bar. After the ooze ooze… the bump got smaller and now smooth skin. Good, ain’t it? I am totally sold by him than me selling to him too! And his face got lifted too. He’s into 50. He’s looking better and younger by the weeks.

Ok gotta go… Hoping to go to the zoo today when the rain stops…

I lost my temper again :(

This afternoon, I lost my temper at Aloysius again. I felt like just run away from home for a moment :( But I cannot. Felt so stuck - physically and mentally. How? I had no patience to feed him his lunch. He kept turning his head here and there, and I am so tired of chasing after him to feed him. After he finally finished his lunch, asked the maid to bring him to urine in the toilet. And he cried and cried and cried. Haiz... Everything is "mama mama mama..." Then he urine on my bed :( I asked him to "get down the bed" and "go away". I was very wary of using the word "go away". I cannot tolerate anymore, and I really want him to be out of my sight before I throw my temper on him, so I used the words.

I am aware of the cries of Aloysius, Bernice and Charlene, and felt so guilty. I should not let them cry too much and throw temper when they want or do not want something. From birth to 3 years old is the important period for development of their character. Some people say it's a "habit". How? Bernice and Charlene have been crying very badly for milk. Think they are having a growth spurt too. Last few nites, they cried louder. They used to just move or make some noise, and I will feed them. No cries in the dark at all. For the past few nites, things had changed. I had to keep waking up too. Alternate feed non-stop for a couple of nites already! More frequently, they want milk at the same time.

I am so exhausted now. I just popped 4 Indinine and going to pop more Vplus for more energy. Think I will skip lunch today. Indinine and Vplus for lunch...

Ok... the more negative I am, the worse it will get. Crying will not solve the problem rite? But it can release some of my mental stress. It's a mental torture of the things I will do when I get angry and knowing that I should not. Ok... What about something positive?

Since my venting here last week, Aloysius can be off diapers for his nap. NO more bed wetting for nap. After last week's episode, I apologised and talked to Aloysius. I followed Shichida's recommendation on discipline. He forgave me.

Oh.. I suddenly felt like going to the temple for some peace. Probably will go to the temple later before meeting Nicholas tonite. I really look forward to meeting him tonite. I am a bit lost on how to cope with business and family effectively. I do not agree with putting my children with the maid or care giver overnight. The kind of bonding during their growing up years is very important and will be gone forever if I do not cherish it now. Nicholas really can balance his family and business. I wanna learn from him. He's very successful, I would say.

Ok back to the positive things...

Aloysius will now poo poo in the toilet. Wiping of puddles of urine is less frequent now. He can wake up with a dry diaper in the morning too. At nite, I gotta wake up at about 3am to bring him to the toilet to urine. He responds to "sssshhhhhhhh...." During his afternoon nap, I gotta bring him to the toilet to urine every 1 hour 15 minutes.
Aloysius is now an expert in piecing up puzzles and he loves it. He's getting more interested in art and craft during his Julia Gabriel class too.
Aloysius can count from one to thirty in English already. The next target is one to forty.
Aloysius has very good memory. He's interested in reading books too. Every night, and every morning, he will want me to read at least 2 books to him. I am quite tempted to buy the Eric Carle books that he likes - "Polar bear, polar bear, what do you hear?" and "Brown bear, brown bear, what do you see?"
Bernice will urine in the potty. She will also poo poo in the potty. That's a very good start for potty training.
Bernice can flip left and right. She can crawl quite a distance.
Bernice has a very good concentration span too. She will stare at the checker board for quite a while when she wakes up.
Charlene can flip left and right too. And she can also crawl quite a distance.
Charlene loves flashcards. She will stare at the cards for 15 minutes. I mean many cards for 15 minutes. If just one card, perhaps a few seconds.
Charlene love to read too. I read to her and she will be very attentive.

It's so much fun to play with all my ABC. I am feeling so much better now. Thanks to Indinine and Vplus. I think it will be even better with nMA and chloreana, I heard. They are the enhanced version with astaxanthin added, and more potent. Will take nMA and Chloreana after my Indinine and Vplus finish :)